tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-277361803634899411.post8620527735080914110..comments2024-03-07T15:41:40.518-08:00Comments on Superfluous Miscellany: Rethinking the Whole Castration ThingJamihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11049138813340800745noreply@blogger.comBlogger21125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-277361803634899411.post-58383774914076183492009-11-24T18:30:56.245-08:002009-11-24T18:30:56.245-08:00You're right, Hannah. It happens all the time....You're right, Hannah. It happens all the time. I'm sorry your friend had such a horrific experience.Jamihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11049138813340800745noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-277361803634899411.post-81562657306589702182009-11-24T15:16:38.743-08:002009-11-24T15:16:38.743-08:00Plenty of seemingly nice, close friends can do awf...Plenty of seemingly nice, close friends can do awful awful things. My best friend was raped by a guy that we all grew up with. He admitted it via a text message that I saw (basically telling her she was a p tease who deserved it) that she deleted after so many of our (supposed) friends said she was jealous and lying. She never reported it because our 'friends' decided he was too nice to do something like this. <br /><br />Just a thought.Hannahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17687363039737974662noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-277361803634899411.post-64714892822922337502009-11-16T14:22:00.241-08:002009-11-16T14:22:00.241-08:00Thanks, Crash and Allison. It's getting a litt...Thanks, Crash and Allison. It's getting a little less tender. I rarely cry for no reason whatsoever now.Jamihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11049138813340800745noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-277361803634899411.post-66643298944542888942009-11-14T16:48:04.329-08:002009-11-14T16:48:04.329-08:00Just like everyone else, I have no solution but th...Just like everyone else, I have no solution but this post is amazing.Alison Wonderlandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15764321314666554990noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-277361803634899411.post-22650160682230412202009-09-30T22:40:48.143-07:002009-09-30T22:40:48.143-07:00awwww Jami, this is so beautifully articulated. ...awwww Jami, this is so beautifully articulated. The ultimate complexity!!!!! <br /><br />HUG! <br /><br />I know EXACTLY how you are feeling!The Crash Test Dummyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16893801583172018597noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-277361803634899411.post-35841636159179918732009-09-28T15:12:47.214-07:002009-09-28T15:12:47.214-07:00Thanks, Melanie.Thanks, Melanie.Jamihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11049138813340800745noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-277361803634899411.post-65503417092993797812009-09-27T14:56:34.552-07:002009-09-27T14:56:34.552-07:00Man, this is such a tough thing. I've never pe...Man, this is such a tough thing. I've never personally encountered this and yet still have felt sickened by how I would feel if I had to. I hope all will eventually be well for you and those you love.Melanie Jacobsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02489615939726209573noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-277361803634899411.post-42775857319812606792009-09-27T12:41:56.078-07:002009-09-27T12:41:56.078-07:00Heather, there is SO much that teaches us how much...Heather, there is SO much that teaches us how much we need God. I don't know how I could live without Him.Jamihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11049138813340800745noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-277361803634899411.post-48917032514494647192009-09-27T11:49:53.191-07:002009-09-27T11:49:53.191-07:00There's a whole lot of wisdom in this post. E...There's a whole lot of wisdom in this post. Even if you feel like everything within you is at odds. That's the very thing that makes us need God so much, and you said that so well. I'm sorry you're going through this. Yuck.Heather of the EOhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14607422301391841377noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-277361803634899411.post-23589756855933225912009-09-27T09:56:28.122-07:002009-09-27T09:56:28.122-07:00Oh Mindy--your poor sister. I can't even imagi...Oh Mindy--your poor sister. I can't even imagine your family's pain. I wish evil people were immediately identifiable. As it is we get taken in by kind words and attractive faces, by intelligence and talent. I wish there was a more effective way to defend ourselves and those we love.Jamihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11049138813340800745noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-277361803634899411.post-25331079287005594562009-09-27T08:29:48.602-07:002009-09-27T08:29:48.602-07:00My sister was the victim of a sex offender. A ver...My sister was the victim of a sex offender. A very nice neighbor whom everyone really liked. I sat through the trial with her on my lap and felt her fear and trembling. He deserved to be castrated. He was not a dear friend however, and I cannot imagine the pain you must be feeling although you do a pretty good job here depicting that pain as my heart hurts very much for you right now.mindyluwhohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18443030788449986652noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-277361803634899411.post-89640141604129364662009-09-27T07:21:15.534-07:002009-09-27T07:21:15.534-07:00Thanks for the hug, Sarah. I appreciate your outlo...Thanks for the hug, Sarah. I appreciate your outlook so much.Jamihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11049138813340800745noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-277361803634899411.post-32816519933329978992009-09-26T20:06:06.913-07:002009-09-26T20:06:06.913-07:00Such a tough and painful situation, but thanks for...Such a tough and painful situation, but thanks for turning it in to a beautiful blog that everyone can relate to on some level. <br />HUGS!!!!!!!!Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09157927859296787896noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-277361803634899411.post-85460483798123212302009-09-26T19:54:05.041-07:002009-09-26T19:54:05.041-07:00Thanks Thora. I feel strange accepting sympathy fo...Thanks Thora. I feel strange accepting sympathy for other people's tragedy, but I still appreciate it.Jamihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11049138813340800745noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-277361803634899411.post-10505811310442406652009-09-26T19:34:25.586-07:002009-09-26T19:34:25.586-07:00I'm sorry! For you, for them, for everybody. ...I'm sorry! For you, for them, for everybody. My husband's dad was (very wrongly) charged (and then acquitted, because of zero evidence, because it never happened) with molestation, and it was a horrible, tramatic, experience for their family - and there wasn't even the drama of disagreeing opinions! This is in a small way why I'm glad that I've been spared having close couple friends get divorced, because they tend to have the fundamental disagreement in facts that this situation has. And often you can never know who's right - at least not in this life. <br /><br />This was all very unhelpful, but I guess I'm just expressing some sympathy. Life is so much more complicated than novels, where everything is explained or worked out in the end. <br /><br />Oh, and Heidi, I didn't think you sounded like a jerk at all.Thorahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04564924243186464304noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-277361803634899411.post-21225073027311496652009-09-26T18:17:19.620-07:002009-09-26T18:17:19.620-07:00Heidi, you're right about the instinct thing. ...Heidi, you're right about the instinct thing. Aside from just the sheer sorrow of the whole thing, not knowing who is the "good guy" is sort of a new thing for me. You are also right about the Princess Bride quote. Also I'm afraid that you are right about the increased incidence of horror as time goes on. You are, however, wrong about coming across as a jerk. <br /><br />Thanks, Wendy. Hanging in there. Hugging my kids.<br /><br />Oh Kristina, I know. I keep looking for that magic wand. I want to fix it, but it's pretty unfixable.Jamihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11049138813340800745noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-277361803634899411.post-74877183475542117282009-09-26T17:45:49.210-07:002009-09-26T17:45:49.210-07:00I have no idea what to say. Our hearts and heads a...I have no idea what to say. Our hearts and heads are often at odds with each other, and while our hearts don't want to believe that someone we know and love could do something so horrible, our heads know better.<br /><br />I found out that a coworker who recently got married, married a convicted sex offender. He got out of prison only 18 months ago, and was in prison for 3 years. I don't really know the circumstances, and apparently, he's returned to the church and repented, as they got married in the temple, but working in social work long enough, sex offenders have an extremely difficult time dealing with their problems.Kristina P.https://www.blogger.com/profile/16144488639100871226noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-277361803634899411.post-36552752248937577192009-09-26T17:21:05.062-07:002009-09-26T17:21:05.062-07:00What a mess! I don't think that anything can b...What a mess! I don't think that anything can be said that will fix any of it. You have no control over any of it. That's what I tell myself to help myself cope. Hang in there. Hug your kids.Wendyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15262889573569791106noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-277361803634899411.post-61042954877145814852009-09-26T16:45:49.307-07:002009-09-26T16:45:49.307-07:00Just reread your post and my two comments--I come ...Just reread your post and my two comments--I come across as a jerk here--so sorry! This whole situation is just horrible, absolutely horrible and I guess the reason no one but dumb me has commented is b/c they know there is nothing they can say that will be of the least use.Heidihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12660156433881882098noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-277361803634899411.post-75808727888342818982009-09-26T16:41:23.722-07:002009-09-26T16:41:23.722-07:00That "sum up" quote is from Princess Bri...That "sum up" quote is from Princess Bride, huh? Love it. Love you!Heidihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12660156433881882098noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-277361803634899411.post-75816576204488559462009-09-26T16:34:16.605-07:002009-09-26T16:34:16.605-07:00Hoo, boy! I wish there was something I could say t...Hoo, boy! I wish there was something I could say that would make this better for everyone (but naturally, I am powerless). I think one of the hard things for you must be the instincts thing. I rely very heavily on my instincts and whenever something happens that tells me they can't be trusted (cause your instincts have to be wrong about one of them, right?)it is devastating to me. I know that makes it sound like I am super self absorbed but my instincts are crucial to dealing with challenges in my life that could get dangerously out of hand if I were to read things wrong. Anyway, I guess I am trying to say that I feel bad for everyone in this and that the questioning of your instincts is the one that I have actual experience with--it's painful enough without all the rest of it. I'm so sorry! I truly believe that as time goes on, these kind of horrific and truly unable-to-wrap-your-mind-around-it circumstances are going to become more and more common. None of us will be able to get along on borrowed light. Love you! Big hugs!Heidihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12660156433881882098noreply@blogger.com