Tuesday, January 17, 2012

Twenty Years Ago

January 17, 1992
Jami and Sam were married in the Oakland temple.

It's been a very eventful twenty years. If I'd been married in a standard wedding ceremony, I would have vowed to have and to hold my sweetheart "for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death us do part." We've had better, worse, richer, poorer, sickness and health. We do love and cherish each other, but I am glad that all that work we've put in through the worst, the poverty and the sickness is going to pay off a little longer than until death. (Let's face it the better, richer, healthier times are their own reward.) Our vows are for eternity and distinctly include a third party, our Father in Heaven. Without him, we doubtless would have quit. With him, we have a relationship worth having for eternity.

I don't remember much of the ad lib part of my wedding ceremony, where the man sealing our marriage for time and all eternity gives his thoughts and advice on marriage, but I remember one thing vividly: his testimony of the importance of the atonement of Jesus Christ, of repentance, and of the need to forgive each other as God forgives us. I remember how intensely I felt the Holy Spirit confirm the truth of those words. As I've thought about what to say about a marriage that has weathered the stormy seas, I just want to say to those on those seas that there is joy and sun ahead through the atonement. Truly, God heals. "Whatever Jesus lays his hands upon lives. If Jesus lays his hands upon a marriage, it lives. If he is allowed to lay his hands on the family, it lives."

Don't get me wrong. I love my husband. I enjoy having and holding him. His quirky sense of humor makes me smile. His humility inspires me. His voice melts me. Tonight we are going to ditch our six kids and go do something fun. Even so, our anniversary is a day, just one out of 7,304 so far. I look forward to many more and to an eternity beyond our years.


Sarah said...

Amazing Jami. So heartfelt and inspiring! I am so happy, proud, and full of congratulatory feelings and high fives for you both!!!!! It is truly amazing that you guys have made -it this far and are long=hawling it determinedly into eternity together. Awesome. CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!! xoxo

Heidi said...

That last paragraph is pure poetry. Love you!

mindyluwho said...

Beautiful. Happy Anniversary!

Annette Lyon said...

Happy anniversary!!!

Debra said...

Sweeeeeet! I agree with Heidi!

Debra said...

It was funny when I first saw the picture. I thought it was your mom and dad ha ha And I was like WOW! You look JUST like your mom!

Jami said...

Debra, it took me a moment to figure out who you were. I know you by nicknames. But statcounter tells all. :) I actually look a lot like my dad. If you were to overlay their two pictures you'd come up with my face.

Thank you, btw.

Ref said...

My wonderful friend! I love you and I wanted to let you know that I actually posted something on my own blog. . . I know it's been like a year. It is a piece I wrote last term and submitted to the nontraditional journal. They published it --shock! I wanted to share with you. I am not sure how often you get on here or whether or not you'll notice a comment so many months after your post.

Love you,